So you are going to be a maid of honour for the first time, congratulations! We guess how excited you must be. But other than wearing a fancy dress and caring a bouquet what does it really mean? Don’t worry Label’Emotion London tells you all the rules to be a perfect maid of honour.
The Planning Process:
Be patient and enthusiastic! Whether wedding are your thing or not try to be enthusiastic when discussing colours, theme ideas and so on. As her maid of honour, offer her your honest opinion when she asks for it “do whatever you want” is not helpful when the bride has a thousand ideas running through her head. On the other hand be patient! Wedding planning brings all sorts of stress, so you need to be the calm in midst of all the wedding madness. Be the bride’s second in command, let her know that she can rely on you!
Be tactful when it comes to choosing bridesmaids dresses. If the bride has chosen bridesmaid dresses that you all hate, for example, bring this up with her gently but clearly at the earliest opportunity. Be diplomatic suggest some alteration ideas, and start with something like “we would feel more happy and confident with…”
Build a relationship with all suppliers so that they know who you are if there is something to be taken care of on the day. Make it clear to everyone that you should be the first point of call when things go wrong, and only get the bride involved in true emergencies!
Plan the best hen party and/or bridal shower ever! This is one of the maid of honour’s most important jobs on the run up to the big day. If you want some tips to organise a memorable bachelorette party and/or bridal shower just click here! But the best tip that we can give you to help you plan these events is to know your audience, which means that you should ask the bride before planning anything to be sure of what she wants. If it is a surprise gather the troops, create a huge brainstorming and ask to her closest friends and family members what would be the best for her! For example do not hire a stripper for your shy and easily embarrassed friend.
On the day:
Be a maid of honour ALL day! You are the maid of honour from the moment you wake up on the big day of the wedding to the moment you go to bed. You should be the one who make sure that bride and groom have nearly nothing to take care of on the D day.
If your bride has taken the time to have a DIY wedding, her part should stop the night before. It’s up to you and your fellow bridesmaids (and helpful friends) to make sure all the decor details are in place.
The morning of the wedding is going to be a bustle of excitement, laughter and tears but it’s also going to be crazy! Organise a rota for the bride, bridesmaids and mother of the bride having their hair and makeup done. Give everyone their time slots so there is no confusion, drama or delays!
As the maid of honour you know for a fact that the bride wants little romantic touches from her future husband on her big day. So it is totally your role to gently suggest the groom that writing her a love note on the morning of the wedding would be a sweet idea for example.
An unforgettable little attention:
If you live close to the bride and groom, why not surprise them by buying a few essentials for the fridge for when the newlyweds return from their honeymoon? If you’re feeling particularly generous, you could always leave a bottle of chilled Champagne in there as a special treat!
So now you might be a little bit worried but keep in mind she chose you to be her maid of honour, the most important person (second to her groom) to share in all the fun and craziness of her big day.
We wish you luck!
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